why hug is important

Hugging therapy is definitely a powerful way of healing. Research shows that hugging (and also laughter) is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress.

Research shows a proper deep hug, where the hearts are pressing together, can benefit you in these ways:

1. The nurturing touch of a hug builds trust and a sense of safety. This helps with open and honest communication.

2. Hugs can instantly boost oxytocin levels, which heal feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anger.

3. Holding a hug for an extended time lifts one's serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.

4. Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body's production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.

5. Hugging boosts self-esteem. From the time we're born our family's touch shows us that we're loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.

6. Hugging relaxes muscles. Hugs release tension in the body. Hugs can take away pain; they soothe aches by increasing circulation into the soft tissues.

7. Hugs balance out the nervous system. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system - parasympathetic.

8. Hugs teach us how to give and receive. There is equal value in receiving and being receptive to warmth, as to giving and sharing. Hugs educate us how love flows both ways.

9. Hugs are so much like meditation and laughter. They teach us to let go and be present in the moment. They encourage us to flow with the energy of life. Hugs get you out of your circular thinking patterns and connect you with your heart and your feelings and your breath.

10. The energy exchange between the people hugging is an investment in the relationship. It encourages empathy and understanding. And, it's synergistic, which means the whole is more than the sum of its parts: 1 1 = 3 or more! This synergy is more likely to result in win-win outcomes.

There is a saying by Virginia Satir, a respected family therapist, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” Eight or more might seem quite high, but while researching and writing this article I asked my child, “How many hugs a day do you like?” She said, “I'm not going to tell you how many I like, but it's way more than eight.” That really made me smile and touched my heart. And, I realized how organic and deep the need for hugs is.

As a loving father, I get plenty of hugs from my little princess and her Mamma. And as a yoga therapist, I often give and receive them from my students at the end of a session. I find that love, is a miracle drug.
# this article is taken from mindbodygreen.com

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Sesungguhnya Allah tidak akan mengubah nasib suatu kaum kecuali kaum itu sendiri yang mengubah apa apa yang pada diri mereka,” (Ar Raad : 11).

HIDUP, jodoh, rejeki, mati, susah semuanya sudah direncanakan oleh Allah. Jadi mengapa harus susah ngoyo menjalani hidup? Kalau memangnya sudah kerja dapat hasil segitu, ya sudah. Tak usah berencana ingin jadi kaya. Jadi kaya tetap begitu-begitu juga. Kalaupun usaha gagal, hanya bikin hidup tambah susah saja.

Kalau sudah memang kematian memjemput, ya mau apa lagi. Kan kita sudah berusaha maksimal, semuanya sudah ditakdirkan. Dan kita sudah berobat. Dokterpun kalau pasiennya meninggal setelah mengalami penanganan medis darinya akan secara dramatis bilang: “Sudah takdir. Kami sudah maksimal menanganinya.”

Hidup kita itu jangan terlalu dibikin repot. Semuanya sudah digariskan, jadi kita tidak usah repot-repot menggariskan kembali kehidupan yang sudah digariskan.

Semua gambaran di atas hanya deskripsi kasar bahwa kita seolah menyerah pada nasib. Ada perbedaan besar antara nasib dan takdir. Kita tidak mungkin melawan takdir, tapi kita bisa mengubah nasib kita.

Keputusasaan, kemauan yang lemah, jiwa pecundang. Syaitan menyukainya. Sebab dengan begitu mereka tidak banyak mengubah hidupnya. Merasa benar bertedeng pada kata-kata kita sudah maksimal melakukannya. Sadarkah kita maksimal adalah barometer angka atau capaian yang sudah ada tingkatan terendahnya dan tertingginya? Minimal di angka 3 dan maksimal di angka 8. Minimal tidak minta-minta, maksimal tidak menyusahkan orang.

Coba kita optimalkan kemampuan kita. Sebab optimalisasi tidak ada batasan maksimal. Dia akan terus bertambah seiring bertambahnya kemampuan.

Allah SWT tidak akan mengubah kita kecuali kita mengubahnya sendiri. Itu keniscayaan.

Allah SWT punya rencana buat kita tapi kita pun harus punya rencana buat diri kita sendiri. [islampos]